How to Get Un-Stuck: dealing with 5 Major Blocks on the Twin Flame path – including Survival Instincts, the Energy of Waiting, plus Inner and Outer Masculine/Feminine Balancing Acts…
I get a lot of questions from Twins about how to get back together, about how to make the shift out of separation and into Twin Flame Reunion, so I decided to take a deeper look at what might be getting in the way, to show up for you what might have gone unnoticed so far – the secret blocks holding up your journey.
After dealing with hundreds of Twin clients over the past few years, I’ve had the opportunity to understand not only my own journey but also the biggest blocks that most Twins have in common.
*5 MAJOR REASONS WHY TWIN FLAME REUNION /
UNION AREN’T HAPPENING FOR YOU*
#1) You’re Not in Energetic Alignment
The biggest single reason why you’re not reaching Reunion or Union, or why you’re not able to stay in a place of love and harmony consistently with your Twin, is that your energy is not in alignment with it.
I’ve had Twin clients who have been waiting for their divine counterpart for 20 years or more without anything changing.
Now, it’s really important to me that you know that this isn’t because those people are not deserving of Union, or because they’re unlucky or because the divine has decreed that they must stay alone, or because there’s something wrong with them.
It’s because their energies just aren’t in alignment with it.
What Experience Are you Tuned Into?
Energy works like this – you have to be tuned into something for you to receive it or for it to come to pass for you. It’s like dialling into a particular radio station. If you’re set to Black Metal FM you won’t be hearing classical music.
So if you desire Reunion, Union and Love, you have to make sure you’re actually set to this “channel” of love and togetherness on a consistent basis.
Sounds easy, right? However, our energy fields can be very complex and we have patterns of thinking and feeling that automatically push us away from what we desire.
Most human beings have their energy fields full of congestion and low vibration energies of fear, worry, concern, anger, shame, guilt and a myriad of other “culprits” that keep us stagnated in loops of experiences we don’t desire – such as conflict, lack of love, heartbreak and stress.
On the upper levels of the vibrational scale on the other hand, are the expansive, light, fast frequencies of love, joy, peace, harmony and enlightenment.
Those who vibrate on a high frequency as their set point, tend to attract more love, joy, opportunities, love and “luck” in life – and I have a feeling we all know that one person who’s just a bit “luckier” than everyone else, that one person who seems to always end up on their feet no matter what and who seems to attract smiles wherever they go. It’s because of their energy.
When we clear away congestion and low energy, we give ourselves the opportunity to rise up to a high vibration regularly, because this is who we are as souls – we are pure light.
What holds most of us back is the lower end vibrations we’ve taken on during life on earth – all the tense, heavy energies.
When there are low vibrational energies and patterns in us, they become blockages in our systems and disrupt our ability to align with love and positivity.
So clearing this is the single most effective way to shift your situation and get to a place of love with your Twin. Have a look here for my personal “recipe” to this – how my Twin and I reached Union within just 18 months of our first encounter.
#2) You’re Not Letting it Happen
Sometimes we get so focused on a particular goal in our lives that we put pressure on ourselves to achieve it, and tell ourselves we’ve failed and that life will never be worth living if we don’t reach it.
This is a common human habit, to set huge goals and feel that as soon as this or that happens, my life will be good.
When I pay down my credit cards, then I can relax, or when I move to another city, then I can be fulfilled, or for most Twins – when I’m together in Union with my Twin, then I’ll be happy.
The problem with this is that it means you’re postponing your joy and experience of love.
You’re telling your energy and the universe to create Happiness and Love as always being separate from you and out in the future. Your Twin Union ends up being pushed in front of you always, and not there in the present.
Pushing Love Into The Eternal Future
The second issue here is that when we set ourselves up with a huge goal that we perceive as the one single solution to any and all problems, we put so much energetic pressure on ourselves.
Effectively we’re creating an energetic situation where we’ll be unhappy in any other eventuality except that one.
This creates energetic stagnation and a feeling of hopelessness – a block – because we’re always focusing on that one thing that’s missing, instead of the good things we already have.
So do yourself a huge favor right now and stop viewing Reunion and Union as something lingering out there like some Holy Grail in the future, because if you keep doing this it will always be in the future…
Focus on being happy in the now moment, on gratitude for the joys you have, and finding fulfilment and a sense of harmony with yourself now, because it is in the now moment you’re creating your future Union and Reunion.
You being happy now helps bring you into alignment with the Love you desire!
#3) You’re Still Attached to Others Energetically
All through life we interact with others emotionally, from parents and teachers to friends and lovers and siblings and even idols and icons we grow emotionally fond of because they stir something in us to make us feel close to them no matter how far away they are.
The issue with this is that these connections are actual energetic attachments – if you’ve never cleared your energy before, chances are you have at least over a dozen attachments to other people. (Go here for a session where we clear these)
And what happens for Twins is that these keep us exchanging energy with those people, even if we’ve not seen them in years. It’s like having an open phone line to them.
Survival Instincts – Complications
For parents and children and even between lovers, these attachments have served a function to stay connected and safe – for example a new mother will be psychically so in tune with her baby that she’ll often instantly know if the baby needs her or is unhappy. This is a part of human survival.
However, with Twin Flames, these connections with others become a problem because the Twin journey is all about the divine counterparts coming back together in their original harmony as souls – to purify the Twin Flames’ energies so they return to that original “soul song” frequency.
And when others’ energies are connected, this gets much more complicated.
To help your journey, make sure you clear old attachments – feel yourself and your energy freer.
We go through this in the Twin Flame Union energy clearing, and we even have your Twin’s soul do this for your Twin to free the both of you from any negative attachments.
#4) You’re In The Energy Of Waiting
Existing on Earth means we are co-creating our journey every step of the way with the universe – we’re not just passengers on this journey, we’re creators.
There is no one “up there in the sky” deciding that you’re not supposed to come together with your Twin until such and such a date.
The determining factor for Twin Union is energy – you’ve got to be in alignment, otherwise your soul and your guides won’t initiate the process (because it could damage your system).
No One is Stopping You Apart from *You*
Know that there is no one stopping you from reaching Union, but there’s also not anyone who will do it for you if you don’t take action yourself.
It’s not enough to just wait for it to happen, unfortunately. I see Twins tell each other “we just have to be patient” – this is not true *at all*.
In fact, having this attitude can be a big block in itself.
This is an old energy pattern of disempowerment we often see in traditional religion, that the power is “up there” and we’re small “down here” and don’t make the decisions but have to take the morsels thrown down to us as and when the deities decide on it.
The truth is you have the power to make your life what you desire. This is the age of re-embracing our individual power of destiny!
Balancing the Masculine and Feminine Within
Sure, there can be a time for patience and some of us have signed up to learn about this, but this journey can never be made without taking action.
In fact, this strongly mirrors the inner balancing act between the masculine and feminine polarity energies in each Twin and between the pair.
We must reach a balance of the “Feminine” polarity of receiving, intuition and allowing, and the “Masculine” polarity of action, strategy and determination. Both are equally important.
Spirit tells us that the energy and situation of waiting is disempowering. Waiting for someone or something else to decide when you and your Twin come together, or when you’ll be happy, or when your dreams will come true, is to give up your own power of creation and action.
You are the most important part of your journey. Decide that you are important enough to take action for – know what you want and go get it. Life is short.
#5) You’re Working on Other Lessons First
Sometimes Twins’ souls actually hold back from getting the pair together in the physical because it’s to their highest good to learn other things first.
In fact, it’s being shown to me that some Twins have structured their journey so that they have decided to learn certain “lessons” before they’ll come together. Meaning – they’re being presented with negativity and limitations until they break through into their own unlimited capability as a soul.
This has been planned before birth. If this is the case for you, there’s something you can do right now to move through that phase and into your desired Love and Togetherness
The Joy of Learning
Spirit asked me recently to something with the Twin Flames 11:11 community to help shift into more joy and love and ease:
When we here on earth begin to approach life as a constant learning experience, looking out for the gifts and the lessons in everything, we speed up our journey and shift into joy because we begin to race through understanding and our guides and our souls can move us onto new experiences and positivity.
On the contrary, if we go through life stubbornly avoiding responsibility for our experiences (we are creating our reality, so we are in alignment with everything that happens, no matter how unpleasant), our souls will have to eventually beat us over the head with the lessons until we can’t avoid them any longer.
Spirit’s advice is: be open to *joyous* learning, so you’ll always be presented with the most fun and gentle version of any lesson you’ve set for yourself.
Relating to this, here are some of the most common blocks that keep Twins out of alignment with Reunion, Union and Love. If these resonate with you, you can clear them right now with energy tools.
Common Twin Flame Blocks
Feeling like you don’t deserve love or for your dreams to come true (rooted in shame and guilt and unworth), skepticism and doubt, pessimism and having a negative worldview (this is often picked up from parents), having a low vibration approach to Union and Love (desiring love and Union from a place of need and want and even avoiding loneliness rather than the active polarity of approaching it with joy and freedom).
Other blocks can come from childhood issues such as experiences of abandonment, feeling misunderstood, feeling undeserving of love for “being you” (the early pattern of feeling that you have to act and feel and be a certain way to receive love, and therefore learn that you’re not enough as you are) and so on.
Feeling like you’re not attractive enough can also be a big block to the Twin Flame journey because it makes you shut off and has an energy of undeservingness to it – feeling like you’re not good enough somehow translates into a pattern of feeling undeserving of unconditional love, which means you’re energetically unable to receive that love.
These can be really niggling underlying issues and are usually rooted deep deep down in the fact that we’ve aligned ourselves with the limited idea that we’re “just a human being” – we’ve forgotten that we’re infinite.
Buried Childhood Troubles
Realize that your seemingly unimportant childhood troubles with feeling ignored by your father or mother or your siblings, or feeling like you always lost out in getting attention from your parents, is acting itself out in your Twin connection – it is something your energy is creating because you embedded the pattern in yourself through experience.
The purpose of this coming up is so that you can clear it and thereby be open to unconditional love, which is what Union is all about. It’s a gift, really.
The bottom line is that if you’ve had any weird or negative issues with other people in life, they are likely affecting your Twin Flame connection unless you rectify them and clear them out.
The good news is that anything negative you ever experience is due to energy – everything is energy. What we need to do to uproot negativity, is to address the energy behind it. Once we clear your blocks and shift your energy into the higher vibrations, you’re in alignment with more and more positivity.
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Finally, the more you can focus on your infinite soul self, the more you’ll align with the positive polarity in life and expand into deservingness, joy, receiving and experiencing the Love and togetherness you desire.
I asked spirit about this once and I was told: “Focus on the light within, and that light will start to radiate through to the physical body and the surface appearance and into your life circumstances”.
So give yourself a chance to really experience this:
Affirm this day by day, put a reminder on your phone with “I am an infinite being of light experiencing life on earth”
…then let this sink in more and more. You’ll notice yourself and your reality shifting into more and more positivity.
Until next time, I’m sending you love and light for your continued journey! <3
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