Q: What is the one thing I can do right now to get closer to my Twin Flame?
A: Forgive yourself.
This may sound like a deceptively simple answer to a big question but most of us don’t fully realize how much hurt and negative energy we direct at ourselves every day that blocks us from our true happiness and from moving forward. Holding negativity inside prevents us from opening up to others, including the one person we desire to get closer to than we ever had imagined possible – our Twin Flame.
It’s a habit most of us have, to keep an internal directory of all the mistakes we’ve made throughout life and all the things we should have done differently – maybe we believed someone who turned out to be lying to us and we ‘should’ have known better, maybe someone gave us a chance and we didn’t make the most of it when it mattered, maybe we feel that we won’t measure up to the ideals we hold for ourselves, and maybe deep inside we just plain don’t like ourselves very much.
What are you hiding from yourself?
Rarely do we think about this consciously; these issues tend to come in the form of the proverbial skeletons in the closet, the invisible list of wrongs and lacks and flaws that stay in the background most of the time – the problem is we don’t tend to realize how much this inner score-board of negativity actually affects us.
In reality this kind of pattern will hold us in a self-made emotional prison until we decide to break free once and for all – realize that you held the key all this time. You are who you choose to be, not who you’ve been told you are or what the past dictates. Every moment is a fresh start, so make the most of it.
Holding onto past hurts and a self-image based in lack, guilt or shame prevents us from moving forward, and above all it’s notorious for messing up our relationships because we end up projecting negativity onto the other person, subconsciously expecting them to reject us for any or all of the “proven reasons” on our list of self-judgments. And unfortunately, it often becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. As pioneer of psychoanalysis, Carl Jung, said: “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”
Keeping the past around
So the most important and loving thing you’ll ever do for yourself is to let it go. Forgive yourself. The past is gone. And any mistake you ever made taught you valuable lessons that enabled you to grow as a person. In this moment, you are who you are now, not who you were then. And another thing: who among us keeps an internal score of all the good things we’ve done? Maybe we should!
When you come together with your Twin Flame, all barriers are torn down: if you do what you can to be content with yourself and happy on the inside even when you’re all alone, you will align yourself with positivity and bring out unconditional love in your relationship. If you hold yourself in lack and negativity, that’s what you’ll bring out around your Twin Flame – your unconscious patterns of negativity will keep being triggered and brought up until you face and resolve them.
So, are you willing to forgive yourself?
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