When Your Twin Flame Dating others is A Paradoxical Sign of How Deeply They Love You – He or She is Seeking you, But Fears Rejection and Seeks Out a “Safe Substitute” Instead …
This week’s question comes from Lynelle P:
“How can I keep calm when my Twin Flame is dating different women? I am constantly pulled in and then pushed out again just to be left to watch other women get time the time and attention I long for. It is exhausting and I am losing faith.”
Thank you so much for this important question, Lynelle. This is something I’ve often come across in my intuitive sessions with Twin Flames, and I’m happy to tell you that there are things that can be done to shift this kind of situation both on an “inner” and “outer” level.
Ascension and Release of Negativity
When the Twin Flames connect energetically, a release process of old karma, negative energy and blockages is triggered in both individuals.
The amount of “baggage” that will be released varies from pair to pair and person to person, but often this process takes at least several years for people if they let it happen “naturally” (with energy clearing tools it can be greatly sped up) – clearing out everything that has been a block to your eventual union in unconditional love: getting back to the pure energetic resonance you shared eons ago when you first separated.
In any romantic relationship we experience our fears and dark sides being stirred up, things we may not have realized were in us until a person got so close it suddenly “emerged from the depths” – was triggered in us.
This happens even more strongly with the Twin Flames, because we are the same original consciousness – we are the same energy, so just by interacting, we push each other’s buttons without even intending to.
Therefore it can be an intense experience to be with your Twin, and many people’s fears are intensified beyond what they can handle – leading to Running, Chasing and separation.
Twin Flame Stages – Why this is Happening
As strange as it may sound, it can sometimes be easier for the Twins to work out their issues with other non-Twin partners, and this is what I’ve noticed during the hundreds of sessions with Twin Flame pairs where I’ve had the opportunity to “tune in” to a runner.
For the Twin Flame who is with someone else, this interaction with another functions almost like a safe “testing ground” because they are afraid of rejection by their True Twin. To read more about Twin Flame Running, go here.
So any other woman your Twin is dating, is somehow a “stand-in” for you. It might help you to look for the similarities between them and you, because there will inevitably be similarities! When you can recognize this, your feelings might begin to shift. You’ll realize that your Twin is trying to love you, only the outer situation getting skewed because of their fear.
You see, the Twin Flame always seeks his or her counterpart deep down. When it is felt to be “unsafe” to be with the Real Twin, however, this person will seek out other “substitutes” that they have less fear with.
So he’s looking for you, but is too afraid of the real you rejecting him. Therefore he’s finding “safe” options with others.
Working Out Issues with “Substitutes”
The subconscious logic at play is that when he doesn’t care so deeply about a person, it won’t hurt so much if they reject him.
Therefore it’s kind of a twisted compliment to have your Twin Flame searching for a “safe” version of you in another – it means he is so deeply connected to you it’s terrifying to maybe mess things up.
On a soul level your Twin Flame is “safely” working out his issues with these other people, where you can’t reject him. I realize this is an incredibly frustrating thing, but ultimately it’s based in subconscious fear on his part so he most likely doesn’t realize that’s what’s going on.
He just feels that it isn’t “safe” to get too close to you in case you reject him.
Twin Flame Test – How to Resolve This
The good thing is that you can clear and resolve these fears using karma and energy clearing tools – the Twin Flames share parts of the same energy field and past life records, so you can help resolve these karmic patterns of fear of rejection for him, especially where it impacts your collective karmic fields as a couple.
You can, with energy and karma clearing, shift the dynamic between the two of you, aligning your energies to be attracting one another yet again. For this kind of a situation I would especially recommend the Complete Twin Flame Harmony Healing which deals with the Twin Flames as a pair.
This will also help you feel more at peace yourself, and you can also use energy clearing tools to deal with some of the downhearted feelings and jealousy that will inevitably be triggered by this kind of a situation.
Ultimately you and your Twin Flame are always connected, and you are never apart on a soul level – but clearing any negative energy will help you bring this positive dynamic out in the physical also, so you can be together harmoniously.
What Are You Manifesting?
Keep in mind finally that what we give our energy to and focus upon is what we draw to us – careful you’re not manifesting the very thing you don’t want.
Make sure you focus on your ideal outcome with your Twin Flame – your happy union or being together. Be mindful of what you are thinking and speaking about and what you are projecting into the future (what you expect and fear) because this is Manifestation. Focus on what you want, not what you don’t want.
Remember that there is no real separation between the Twin Flames and that it is a part of the Ascension process, to come to a deeper understanding of this – learning this lesson. You are never truly apart even if one is “running”, with another or you are in separate countries or states.
You can connect with your Twin’s soul in this free meditation I created for Twin Flames, and experience this for yourself. This can be truly healing, as you get to interact with the eternal part of your Twin who’s only feeling love for you. To read A Message for You From Your Twin Flame’s Soul, go here.
The Paradox of Inner and Outer Love
It would benefit us all to remember to have self love and take care of our own well-being also.
Ultimately, we can only truly receive love to the extent we love ourselves, because otherwise we are in an energetic mismatch and will tend to experience tension and challenges.
At low moments, salt baths are a great help to clearing toxins and heavy energy out of the energetic and physical bodies. Meditation is also a powerful in getting out of any negative thought patterns and regaining an inner connection with our intuition and soul wisdom.
We provide both energy and karma clearing tools, meditation exercises and other specific tools and information to bring the Twin Flame dynamic into Vibrational Alignment in our complete Twin Flame Program.
Thank you so much for your question, Lynelle, I hope you find some help and insight in this article!
Sending you love and light for your continued journey <3
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