Q&A: The Truth About Twin Flame Surrender


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Surrender As A Twin Flame Stage – Why Does It Have To Be So Hard? Ideas of the Punishing God, How to know what’s Right for You, and the Secret Messages your Body and Heart have been trying to tell you all along.


Another hotly discussed theme on the Twin Flame journey is the idea of “surrender”, “letting go”. Many Twin Flame experts describe this as a necessary “stage” of the journey, and I get questions about this all the time.

Back when I was going through some turbulence on my own journey, I asked spirit about this. Because I kept seeing articles and hearing about Twins who’d been told by well-meaning psychics and other Twins that they had to just “let it go” and “surrender”. Yet I strongly felt there was something missing.

It felt like dogma, like something these people were repeating as a standard answer without understanding fully what it entailed or why it was supposedly so important to “surrender”.


Why Your Psychic/Friend/Twin Flame Expert May Have Been Wrong:

I decided to get to the bottom of the issue once and for all, because I know that this issue brings a lot of pain to Twins. Especially when it’s what they’re told in dire circumstances.

When you feel like things are spinning out of control, or your Twin journey is derailing, that your Twin is gone for good or that things might not turn out OK after all…

To be told “you’ve got to just let it go” or “surrender” feels most of all like a punch in the stomach.

So here it is – what “surrender” really means on the Twin Flame journey, why the people who’ve told you to “let it go” might have been dead wrong, and why you knew best all along (if you had just listened to yourself).



Twin Flame Surrender – What it Really Means

The idea of “letting go” and “surrendering” can be incredibly painful. No wonder. Often, we’re not meant to. So many people suffer because of this.

Surrender is often not easy for a reason. It’s the deepest innermost resistance of the soul and being because your physical body itself is involved.

Think how many lives precede yours. Ancestry, DNA. To the human being, historically, submitting means life or death. Terrifying. It’s built into us physically.

The feelings of resistance you have, are there for a reason. If your whole body system feels threatened, it will protect you with resistance – anger, tears, ruptures, panic, all the primal reactions. The idea of “surrender” is in most cases not in alignment with the system’s healthy functioning. You always get signals of what you’re aligning with.

If “letting go” or “surrendering” doesn’t feel right for you right now, it’s because it’s not right for you right now. No matter what a psychic or a friend or a Twin Flame expert tells you.

And no matter what they themselves have experienced. Your system works perfectly for you.

If it feels wrong to “surrender” and “let go”, it’s your very being crying out that it’s wrong for you right now. No one can ever impose surrender on you, nor should they.



Surrender as a Twin Flame Stage

You don’t have to force yourself. Instead, rise above. Lift your energy, align with your infinite being self and get to that point of being so secure in yourself and your ability and your infinite nature, that release and letting go of anything that doesn’t serve you is just a by product of being you – that being free from negativity IS YOU.

This is why Twin Flame Surrender as an obligatory Stage of the Journey is a false idea. When you are in a high enough vibration, “surrender” isn’t necessary because you won’t be holding on to the negativity any longer anyway.


It’s simply a byproduct of raising your vibration. As you rise up, negativity can’t attach to you any longer and you yourself won’t need to “release” anything. It slips away, you don’t even have to give it a thought. It requires no effort. 

When you’re in a high vibration you don’t feel the need to control or force anything.

This is, incidentally, how Buddhism teaches enlightenment – aligning with the eternal light self through meditation in such a way that your identification with the negativity stops, and it is therefore unable to stay attached. This is called “detachment”, and an important thing there too, is you can’t force it.

Do not listen to those who say you *have* to surrender and let go. It’s not for everyone.

In fact, I would say that it’s not even healthy for those who do find it easy, because it is playing into their existing patterns of disempowerment.


Power Exchange With The Universe

The dogmatic idea of Twin Flame Surrender, or any lightworker’s surrender, involves a power exchange with the Universe where you are perceived to have to submit.

The truth is, that you *are* the Universe expressing itself. It is very important not to reinforce the idea of the Universe as being punitive, i.e. a universe that pushes you to your limits or is demanding of you, puts you through suffering. These are myths. Ancient ones, going back thousands of years.

There is no “higher being” dictating to you that you must do this or that to reach your happiness.


You are the one in control of your journey, the one with the map that you and your Twin designed yourselves for your journey back together.

Individuals in Ascension (which is an intensive process) need energetic boundaries. You are in a chrysalis, a butterfly preparing to fly. Until you’re ready, it can be damaging to force the chrysalis open.

Surrendering when it feels forceful, breaks those very energetic boundaries that are protecting you on your journey from negativity. Things unfold in their right time. Forcing surrender can be damaging.


Redefining Surrender and Letting Go

Remember in all of this, that you and your Twin are always connected by an energetic cord of divine love which goes from soul to soul. This Twin Flame Bond is unbreakable. So to “let go” – you’re not letting go of your Twin.

Simply put, true “surrender” is meant to be about letting go of negativity and learning to listen to your own higher wisdom – about shifting out of ego and into your soul self.

It’s about releasing and clearing any feelings, thoughts, perceptions, attachments that are not serving you. This is an incredibly important distinction that many fail to mention.

You are never meant to “let go” of your Twin Flame, and if you’re not ready surrendering to a “higher power” won’t be the magic cure you’re looking for either. Because you are always the one running the show, no matter what you think on a human level.

Keep in mind, if it doesn’t feel good or easy to “let go” or “surrender”, it’s not for you right now. If so, you still have more energy that needs clearing, more beliefs that need shifting before it’s ready to go.

Letting go/”surrender” is like picking apples from a tree: If something is not ripe, you’ll have to force it off and it will taste sour and crabby. But once the fruit is ripe, it falls off effortlessly.


If the idea of “surrender” or “letting go” of something makes you feel bad, you’re still hanging on energetically on a subconscious level. It cannot be wrested from you. It must be done from a place of joy, a high vibration where you FEEL that it makes no difference to you if it stays or if it goes, in fact it’s lighter for you to let go.

Not mentally, but SPIRITUALLY, where your energy and emotions feel overwhelmingly light and happy to let go of this. Listen to your body and your intuition.

“Letting go” – again, from a high vibration. Doing this from a place of pain or suffering or because there’s no other way out is not advised because it will only reinforce negative beliefs about your Twin Flame connection, the world, your place in it and the nature of the Universe.


Surrender to Whom?

Remember that you are source energy expressing itself through your physical body vessel. You are a being of light, the Universe expressing itself. Once you align with this immense power, there is no need to “let go” or “surrender.”

You don’t have to “surrender” to “the divine” to open up your journey. You *are* the divine. You already have the ability to tap into higher wisdom – it’s already *in you*.

Just stop thinking so much, relax the mind, listen to your intuition – the map is already in you.


When you encounter the idea of surrender or submitting, in any article or from any individual (no matter how well-meaning they are) please keep this in mind:

Surrender to whom? Submit to whom? You are the universe expressing itself, a soul of pure light energy. So is everyone else. Therefore there is no one above or beneath you.

The idea of surrender as a decree and a “necessary stage” is an old religious idea based on the monotheistic hierarchy structure of God above humanity. If this is your belief, please ask yourself whether it is supporting and serving you on your journey, or whether it’s causing you pain along the way.

If it’s the latter, it might be time to reconsider, at least open up to the possibility of something else serving you better.


Humanity Reawakening

This is the age of humanity’s reawakening to our inner “godlike nature”. We are all source energy, the “Universe”. There is no “higher power” to surrender to, because you are the “higher power”.

No one is constructing challenges for us, except us and our “baggage” – and we are doing it as souls in order to learn about our own power. Our own creative ability.


Please don’t allow anyone to deter you on your journey. There are 7 billion people on planet Earth, and at least as many opinions!

Take other people’s opinions for what they are. It’s always optional to listen to others. If something feels wrong to you, step away – this is your intuition signalling to you.

If your heart seeks your Twin Flame, this is for a reason. If it feels hard to “let go” this is for a reason! You’re always connected, for a reason.

If you encounter trouble, static, separation, go roundabout any negative connections, negative energies. Clear the energy that’s at the core of the conflict or wound. This opens up to positivity again.


Twin Flame Surrender is:


# Only advisable when and if it feels right, light, easy

# About letting go of what doesn’t serve you

# A natural by-product of raising your energy vibration and clearing negativity

# Not something others can or should push you into

# Not obligatory 

# Not something you can or should force

# Not something a demanding Universe is waiting for you to do as the “key” to allowing you to come together with your Twin again

#You can access Higher Power or Divine Wisdom from within – it’s what your intuition is all about! You don’t have to submit to anyone outside of yourself


Twin Flames are here on earth living a grand experiment. The journey to become our own Love, our own Joy, our own Freedom – and to join together with our mirror self from that place of acceptance and unconditional love.

If you’re facing challenges, start working on shifting your energy – that’s what dramatically turned my own journey around from a place of struggle to a place of joy. And listen to your intuition; ask your soul to help you understand your connection with your Twin Flame more, or differently – whatever serves you best at this point.


Until next time, I’m sending you love and light for your continued journey! <3

Cassady x


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